Sunday, January 31, 2010
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Thank you, Target for having a 'backhoe' in your parking lot. You made Jack's day!
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
I did, however do this tonight (vashistasana).
But the fullest expression of the pose is this. Oh, yeah, sure. No problem.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Lunch, deep tissue prenatal massage and yummy wine-colored pedicure.
Dinner pre-gaming at the hotel.
The next morning I slept in till 10. I haven't done that in AGES! Even when I sleep in at home I don't sleep past 8 or maybe 9 because it's a long time for Matt to watch Jack without some help (so says him, not me I have full confidence in him.) After my lie-in we had breakfast and headed Back to the Historic Smithville town area which has many cute and funky shops, like this one:
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Now in his defense, he did bite his tongue, kinda bad today. Maybe that hurts, maybe it's waking him up. He also had his hand in his mouth most of the day, maybe it's his teeth. Maybe there's a pea under his mattress.
It could be anything. And what sucks is we'll never know what we've been doing so HORRIBLY wrong all this time.
And I'm going away. Leaving Matt to maybe solve this problem... or suffer through it. He can handle it, but when I deal with HIGHLY UNDESIRABLE situations such as these my coping mechanism is to exert as much control as is humanly possible. How can I do that from NJ? Frack!
Friday, January 22, 2010
We are VERY excited.
...but, that's not all!!! (Said in my very best Bob Barker voice).
Tomorrow morning Mommy has to wake up early to get on the road, because GiGi is taking her to a spa. Yes, SPA!!!
Massage? Yes, please!
Pedicure? Yes, please!
Lunch and dinner out with my mom, aunt and cousin? Yes, please!
Sleep in the next morning? Don't mind if I do....
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
BRB = be right back
LOL = laughing out loud
DH = dear(darling) husband/damn husband
DD/DS = dear daughter/dear son
KTFU = knocked the eff up
PG = pregnant
EBF = exclusively breast fed
FF = formula fed
BF =breast fed/feed
KWIM = know what I mean?
ITA = I totally agree
KTHXBI = okay, thanks, bye
some have similar meanings or are related in 'topic'.
I have temporarily enabled comment approval for the next 48 hours to keep you from cheating... not that you'd cheat, I'm sure! GL! (That means: Good Luck!)
The Crivella Family is the winner!!! Congrats, Susan!
Monday, January 18, 2010
Jack is officially sleeping better!!!!
We tried everything. We tried sitting/standing in his room till he fell asleep (which mean nap/bedtime was a 45 minute ritual), we tried bribery with treats, we tried time-outs, we tried yelling at him and there may have been a butt-swat thrown in once. All to no avail. Finally for nap on Wednesday I decided rationally explaining to him what was happening.
"Jack, it's time for nap. Mommy is going to be downstairs. You're going to be OK. It's time to lay down and go night-night."
As I'm explaining 'the plan' to him I'm thinking to myself "This is NEVER going to work." As soon as I was done explaining to him I shut the door. Silence. I went down stairs waiting for him to change his mind and start screaming... silence. I couldn't believe it.
In all our attempts to get him to go to sleep, treating him like an adult and just explaining to him what 'the plan' was never occurred to either of us. We did it for bedtime, and for the midnight wake-ups. And each night was more and more drama-free. He's still waking up maybe once or twice a night but Matt just goes in and says "It's time for night-night. Mommy and Daddy are right here, we're going night-night in our bed, you're going to lay down and go night-night in your bed." To which Jack replies "Okay." And he lays down and Matt leaves and comes back to bed- 3 minutes or less. Every nap and night time since Wednesday has been the same (or maybe even a little better). We really can't believe it.
I haven't written anything about it for fear that I might jinx myself. And even still I'm wondering if nap and bedtime today will be as great as it has been... but I think it's commonly accepted that kids need 3 days to change a habit (where adults need 21) so since we're on day 5 I'm feeling 90% hopeful that we can expect continued success.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
The tile is down! The marble is sealed; we'll grout tomorrow and then we'll reinstall the toilet, vanity and pick up the new vanity top from Lowes and voila, we'll have a whole new bathroom. The master bath now looks fugly (which is a contractor technical term) in comparison, but that will just keep us motivated to keep working.
Big thanks to GiGi and PaPa for their help this weekend and the use of their oh-so-vital tile saw!
Link is proving to be a big help keeping Jack entertained. We have a few of those cat-toy-on-a-stick toys and Jack just holds the stick and runs around the house, which of course drives the cat nuts- causing the cat to burn some excess energy off and causing Jack to erupt in uncontrollable fits of giggles.
Some updates on #2:
-I'm still not swelling!! I can't tell you how pleased and proud I am of this fact. At this point last time it was just about Thanksgiving. I was so swollen I couldn't wear my wedding rings. I couldn't wear any cute shoes and my feet were in a constant state of cankles.
-My prenatal yoga class is awesome! I saw Marla again this week. She said she's been feeling YUCK all day and she's hoping that these early labor signs will hold off till Leora's Birthday party this weekend! Good Luck, Marla!
-I also learned that I spent the last 2 months of my pregnancy with Jack I tried to 'help prepare' my body with different exercises and body positions (i.e. tilted pelvis) well apparently everything I did was closing off my pelvis not opening it as I thought. No wonder he never descended and engaged!
-I'm tired, a lot. Maybe tomorrow a certain husband will let me sleep in and he can be 'on duty'. ::fingers crossed::
Friday, January 15, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
For about 4 weeks now we've been dealing with varying sleep problems, unpredictable bed&nap time behaviors, and most unpleasantly: hours of wakefulness usually between 11pm and 4am.
Sometimes he goes to sleep within 30-45 minutes of being put to bed (including reading stories). But, we have to stand there, in his room or in the doorway so when he 'prairie-dogs' (pokes his head up to look for us) he sees we're still there. Which means the bedtime-parent (Matt) and the off-duty parent (Me) are both stuck sitting or standing in silence in the darkened house until Jack falls asleep. Am I setting Jack up to only sleep in silence? Yes. But, you know what, I'm so desperate for a few hours to myself that I'll basically do anything to get him to fall asleep so Matt and I have enough time together to watch a movie or 1 or 2 DVRed shows before we have to go to bed because we know it's inevitably going to be a long night.
Sometimes Jack only wakes up 2 or 3 times a night and falls back asleep within 1-2 minutes. We call that a good night. Sometimes Jack wakes up and talks to himself for 1-4 hours (loudly, so we can't sleep) but he doesn't need us. So we lay in bed and pray that it will all be over soon.
Sometimes he waked up distraught and requires 30 minutes to an hour of consoling, bribery and yelling to get him to lay down long enough to relax and thus fall back asleep. If this happens it's usually an indicator of a very long night, because it never happens just once.
Jack hasn't slept through the night in 4 weeks.
I cannot believe I have only 12 weeks to solve this problem before I'm going to have to split my eye-twitching frustration between a toddler and a newborn. Do I feel alone? Yes. Do I feel helpless? Yes. Do I feel like it's going to be like this forever? No. But I do feel that even if we came up with a workable solution to this problem when the baby comes Jack will regress, and he'll probably regress on sleep, because that's the kind of luck I have. Do I feel manipulated by my toddler? Oh hell yes. Do I feel terrible that I have tried to put him in time out, bribe and scream at my toddler all over sleep? Yes. I feel bad for my neighbors who have to hear it every night.
Honestly, I've tried damn near everything, twice. I've Googled the shit out of this problem and I've tried every solution suggested, even the ones that don't apply because my less-than-2-year-old isn't in a crib anymore. I think my 'favorite' part is Matt and I are both so desperate at this point for some real measurable change in this behavior that we're at each others throats about how to solve it. Not because he believes in one solution and I believe in another, but because we oscillate between believing we just have to hunker down and wait it out and we have to 'do something' to solve the problem and thus get impassioned to the point that we'll defend our stance on general principal.
I'm seriously considering buying some plywood and building a cage.... erm, crib around that twin bed. It could totally work, right? That wouldn't be weird at all.
I don't really know what the point of this blog is. Normally I'd share some news or ask for advice, or poll the readers but I feel like I've already tried it all, so unless there are any guaranteed solve your problem in 3 days solutions out there I haven't already tried I'm not really looking for suggestions (unless you can actually guarantee them.) I'm just so stinkin tired of spinning my wheels, spending my money and resenting my completely innocent toddler all in the name of sleep.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
The red 63 Corvette needs a hood, bumpers, antenna and front seat to look like the silver one. He doesn't seem to mind too much though. Thank goodness!
Monday, January 11, 2010
Also, if there are any traits that I missed please feel free to leave them as a comment!
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Laura (my roomie from college) got Jack this book a few months ago and we've recently been reading it. Now Jack has started requesting the "Baby Book". It's VERY descriptive, but since I'm not one to skirt around concepts like 'uterus' and 'contractions' anyway it's very interesting to read about these concepts to my son in a way he'll actually understand them (as opposed to the overly-wordy age-inappropriate way I would).
With his interest in that book I got this one:
Apparently running away and hiding to poop or pee in a diaper is a sign of readiness. Since Jack has been doing this I guess we should try. I just assumed the running away was a sign he was not ready. Shows what I know!
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Went to Lowes
Hit up the TJ (pronounced Teege) because we were out of milk, eggs and a few other essentials
Came home, tore apart the bathroom We had some highly-skilled help, of course.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Jack is back in swim class! He's so much better about following instructions and although he's a little apprehensive this time I'm hoping that over the next six weeks we'll learn some new skills!
Then we learned what a time out at the Animal Welfare Society is like. Kidding! He put himself in there, and was talking about the puppy dogs. I hope he doesn't think he can get adopted out! He's not for sale (most of the time).
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Jack was mostly willing to pose for a pic with mommy.
Towards the end things got a little silly.
Like I said, silly.