Play-date etiquette. After doing some disciplining of other peoples kids (which makes me uncomfortable because I wonder if the parent is pissed at me for doing telling their kids what to do and then think that if they are pissed at me I should be pissed too because their kid was out of line....) I'm wondering if there are any official or unofficial rules about play dates and disciplining other people's kids.
I'm of the mind that if my kid is about to hurt himself, please do whatever it takes to stop him. (Yelling, grabbing him and hand-swatting are all acceptable in a physical danger-type scenario.) If I'm not paying attention, which happens a lot, please also feel free to force my kid to share, give something back, or stop doing some other undesirable behavior. What if I'm watching Jack do something and I don't see it as a problem, but you do? Do you tell me? Do you talk directly to Jack? Do you grit your teeth and ignore it? What if I look like I'm paying attention to Jack's behavior and am choosing inaction when actually I'm not paying attention to what he's doing and wouldn't at all mind someone else pointing it out or stepping in? What types of behaviors would cause you to interceed? If someone gets too involved in your parenting would you say something to them? Would you say something if you think they aren't involved enough in their own child's behavior?
Even if you don't often (or ever) comment, please weigh in! I think the more minds that help me suss this one out the better.